Forgiveness can feel impossible when the wound is fresh. Jesus understands that—and He shows us a way that is honest, healing, and powered by His grace.
Jesus’ Clear Call
Matthew 18:21–22 (WEB): “Then Peter came and said to him, ‘Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? Up to seven times?’ Jesus said to him, ‘I don’t tell you up to seven times, but up to seventy times seven.’”Jesus isn’t minimizing pain; He’s revealing the limitless nature of Kingdom forgiveness.
Ephesians 4:32 (WEB): “Be kind to one another, tender hearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you.”Our forgiveness flows from God’s forgiveness toward us in Christ.
What Forgiveness Is—and Isn’t
Forgiveness is releasing the right to pay someone back and entrusting justice to God. It isn’t denial, instant trust, or the removal of wise boundaries. Reconciliation is the goal, but it may take time and requires repentance and safety.
How Jesus Modeled Forgiveness
Luke 23:34 (WEB): “Jesus said, ‘Father, forgive them, for they don’t know what they are doing.’”At the cross, Jesus prayed for those who hurt Him. He entrusted judgment to the Father and opened the door for our forgiveness.
Why Forgive?
Matthew 6:12, 14–15 (WEB): “Forgive us our debts, as we also forgive our debtors… For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you.”Forgiveness is the family resemblance of God’s children. We pass on what we’ve received.
Colossians 3:13 (WEB): “Bearing with one another, and forgiving each other, if any man has a complaint against any; even as Christ forgave you, so you also do.”Practical Steps When You Don’t Feel Like It
1. Name the wound before God: Tell Him exactly what happened and how it hurt.
2. Choose forgiveness by faith: Pray, “Father, because You forgave me in Christ, I release this debt to You.”
3. Pray blessing (even if brief): Ask God to work in the other person’s life for their good (Matthew 5:44).
4. Set wise boundaries: Forgiveness and wisdom go together; rebuild trust carefully (Romans 12:18).
5. Repeat as needed: When the pain resurfaces, reaffirm your decision before God.
A Short Prayer
Jesus, You forgave me at great cost. I bring this hurt to You. By Your grace I release this debt and entrust justice to the Father. Heal my heart and teach me to walk in Your forgiving love. Amen.